Massachusetts & New Hampshire Lawyers
Representing Women in Divorce
The attorneys at
Pollack Law Group, P.C. (PLG) believe that, all too often the deck is stacked in favor of the
divorce negotiation and, in cases in which property division is complex, women
stand to lose the most.
Marital property may include complex financial assets such as retirement plans, stock options, restricted stock, real estate, intellectual property, brokerage accounts, and closely held businesses or professional practices, making the advantages or disadvantages of various settlement offers difficult to decipher – especially for women who haven’t been involved in the management of household finances.
The fact is, divorce still tends to damage women financially far more than it does men. The negative effects can reach far into the future. Women who've been out of the workforce for many years or earn substantially less than their husbands often find their post-divorce expenses greatly exceed their income. The result? They start liquidating assets soon after the divorce in order to maintain something close to the lifestyle they had while married.
What to Expect From Divorce if You Have a Controlling Husband
Add divorce to the mix with an already controlling husband and you should not expect him to be cooperative or go away quietly. Anticipate manipulative and potentially explosive behavior. He’ll very likely feel entitled to get whatever he wants. At the same time, he’ll be blaming you and everybody else for his problems.
Most controlling husbands will try to convince you that they know the law. At the same time, he’ll feel the rules do not apply to him, making him more difficult to deal with. Because he’ll be so competitive, and make every effort to continue manipulating you, you should:
Never let your husband convince you not to hire an attorney. The process is designed to be adversarial, and if the two of you haven’t been able to negotiate issues throughout your marriage, what makes you think things would be any different now? Chances are he has something to hide or something he wants and he knows that if you hire an attorney it will be more difficult to achieve this goal.
Understand the mechanics of both child support and spousal support. The best way to understand them is to educate yourself as to how the law works and how it will affect your unique situation. For specific questions, call any of our attorneys. We’ll answer your questions and provide you some of the information you need to know – over the phone or in-person – during a free, no-obligation consultation.
Have plenty of cash on hand to get you through the next two or three months. Make sure you have enough money to pay your bills and cover your expenses in case you are denied access to checking and savings accounts.
A Warning to Women: Avoid Making These Mistakes During the Divorce Process
- Short-term thinking and underestimating your expenses. Many women getting divorced concentrate only on their daily cash needs and miss the big financial picture, including living expenses. You must write your expenses down and develop a realistic budget each month.
- Meeting your husband alone to discuss settlement. Husbands are notorious for cornering their wives without an attorney present to try to control the situation and get wives to agree to settle for less.
- Thinking you will get a chance to tell your story to the judge. It won’t happen. Ever. Even if you go to trial, there are strict rules about how and what evidence is presented and what you can say.
- Sweating the small stuff. Women don’t want their husbands to get away with anything, so they jump on every little thing that comes their way. Focus on winning the war – not each little battle.
These are just some of the mistakes you should be careful not to make. Learn more by exploring our Top 10 Divorce Mistakes.
Strong Lawyers for Strong Women | Pollack Law Group, P.C.
Even with more women in the workplace than ever, there are still many divorce situations in which women are the disadvantaged spouse. At PLG, we have considerable experience representing women in divorce and family law matters in Massachusetts and New Hampshire. From alimony and property division to child custody and parenting plans, we are prepared to protect the interests of women across the economic spectrum.
For a free, no-obligation consultation and strategy session, call us at 800-234-7670 or contact us to schedule an appointment with one of our attorneys in any of our more than 15 offices in Massachusetts or New Hampshire. We offer early morning, late night and weekend appointments.